New year‘S resolutions and Couples therapy in North richland hills, TX

Reflecting and Reconnecting After the Holidays

The Challenge of Post-Holiday Blues

Now that we are past the holidays, you can finally take a breath again and return to some sort of stasis in the comfort of your own space. But what if a return to your own space is not full of the comfort and peace you wish it was? What if family time and the holidays were a sort of break from the vicious cycle of fighting, disconnection, and loneliness you and your partner find yourself in? If you are back in the cycle of sadness and need help to connect, our couple’s counselors in North Richland Hills can help you break down the barriers you are experiencing and drill down to core issues that need healing to lead to greater fulfillment and connection.

The Debate Over New Year's Resolutions

Some people have a distaste for New Year’s resolutions, opting for self-improvement whenever it is needed rather than waiting for the passage of time and a specific day of the year to be the catalyst for change. Whether you are an advocate of New Year’s resolutions or are an advocate of in-the-moment change, as couple’s counselors at Luxx Therapy, we believe that now is always the right time to be intentional in how you connect with yourself and loved ones. This new year, we encourage the following steps to make 2024 the year you feel most fulfilled in your love relationships.

When Tensions Run High

When you and your partner are in a constant state of tension and fighting, taking a step back to reflect is often the right choice.

Misconceptions About "Taking a Step Back"

The first thing on your mind, when you hear about “taking a step back” in a relationship, may be taking a break from the relationship. Cue the infamous fight between Ross and Rachel on Friends, in which Ross regularly defends his actions of sleeping with someone else by yelling the phrase “We were on a break!”. This is not the kind of stepping back we are encouraging. Taking a step back may include taking a break in a relationship, but what we are advocating for is more intentional and less drastic. When tensions run high, we encourage individuals in relationships (which really is all of us, right?) to take the time needed to reflect with the intention of slowing down the cycle of fighting, rather than continuing in it. To slow things down, it may be taking a few hours alone to reflect upon what common themes are coming up for you in the context of the fights with your partner. Some helpful reflection points might include:

• What am I hearing when my partner says this to me?

• What does this remind me of?

• Who else’s voice am I hearing when I hear the feedback they are giving me?

• If what my partner is saying about me is true, what would that mean about me?

• If I reject my partner’s opinion, could I at least see where they are coming from, or how they came to that conclusion about me?

These process questions are really hard to explore. If you bristled at the thought of any of them, you are not alone. Our individual counselors in North Richland Hills all take a couples-informed approach, even when working with you alone, and could help you explore these questions and others if doing it with your partner feels too scary at this time.

Seeking Deeper Connections

If you and your partner are in a peaceful period, but you want more depth and intimacy in your connection, initiating intentionally deeper conversations may help you get there.

Emotionally Focused Therapy Approach

Many of our couple’s counselors at Luxx Therapy in North Richland Hills utilize an Emotionally Focused Therapeutic approach to couple’s work, drawing largely on the work of Dr. Sue Johnson. We would be remiss if we did not mention her book, Hold Me Tight, in the context of this conversation. Hold Me Tight explores “7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” which leads couples to greater emotional intimacy and vulnerability, ultimately with the goal of developing and maintaining a lifelong bond and fulfilling connection. Our experience is that navigating these types of emotionally intimate conversations can be challenging. If you and your partner are ready for that deeper connection, starting the book together, and making an appointment with a couple’s counselor to have a safe space to navigate challenges that may arise is a great way to take your relationship to the next level in this new year, 2024.

The Importance of Daily Connection

In the hustle and bustle of life, taking time every day to connect is a worthwhile resolution for 2024.

Embracing the Ordinary

When I ask couples how often they come together to connect with one another, I often hear references to the monthly or even weekly date nights. While date night is a good thing, going weeks or even days between date night without connecting with your love just isn’t enough. Whether it was the invention of the prom-posal or the elaborate and grandiose gestures we have become accustomed to seeing on our Instagram and TikTok feeds, it seems like we have replaced the spectacular for the ordinary. And I am here to say that fulfilling relationships are full of frequent and daily ordinary moments of genuine connection. The ability to see your partner come home and be attuned enough with them to anticipate the kind of day they have had is an art that your relationship can learn. At the end of the day, getting in bed and asking, “How are you really?” and knowing you are safe enough in the relationship, to be honest about where you are at is the type of connection we help couples foster through Couples Counseling at Luxx Therapy. While the spectacular adds some flair and fun, this year, on a daily basis, we are helping couples connect in the sacred, safe space, of ordinary life.

Get Help Setting New Year's Resolutions as a Couple in Couples Therapy in North Richland Hills TX

Entering the New Year is a prime opportunity for couples in North Richland Hills to strengthen their relationship. Luxx Therapy offers expert guidance in couples therapy to help you and your partner break free from cycles of disconnection and conflict, and embark on a journey towards deeper understanding and intimacy. Now is the time to be intentional about your relationship; whether it's exploring underlying issues, enhancing emotional intimacy, or simply finding joy in everyday interactions. Make 2024 a year of transformation and fulfillment in your relationship. Reach out to Luxx Therapy in North Richland Hills for couples therapy and start shaping your journey toward a stronger, more connected partnership.

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OTHER MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES AVAILABLE AT LUXX THERAPY

In addition to Couples Therapy, we offer a wide range of services at Luxx Therapy geared towards meeting you where you are in your mental health journey. We will walk the path to understanding and healing with you whether you are in need of Individual Counseling, Anxiety Therapy, EMDR Therapy, Therapy for Depression, Trauma Therapy, or Family Therapy! Reach out to us today.